Category: Men specific

Can you help me out… and possibly be helped yourself?

You may not have heard, but I’ve launched an additional web ministry – Christian Home and Family. It’s got the typical blog, resources, a prayer wall, videos, and a podcast… and it’s going pretty well so far.

I am very excited about a two-part interview I did with my 3 older kids regarding the role of parents in helping their children develop the habit of daily Quiet Time… and the goal of that practice, ongoing relationship with the LORD.

I also have another upcoming interview (October) with a very high profile Christian businessman that I can’t disclose fully - yet. But you’ll be among the first to hear about it when I can!

Anyway, could you help me out with a little bit of “social proof?”

  • Go to my podcast page
  • Subscribe to the podcast
  • Listen and then RATE the podcast (at the bottom)
  • Leave a comment (at the bottom)

All of these things will help me rank higher in the I-tunes directory, and therefore come across the radar of many more people that the podcast may help.

And who knows, you may benefit from the podcasts you listen to as well!

Can you help me out? – Thanks!

Loving submission: Example #1 – Marriage (sermon audio)

After some breaks for various Sunday events we’ve resumed our sermon series through the book of Ephesians – IF/THEN.

The latest sermon covers Ephesians 5:18-33.

LOVING SUBMISSION: EXAMPLE #1 – MARRIAGE


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Christian Home And Family – GOING LIVE!

Introducing Christian Home and Family

I’ve been working on a new web-venture… and TODAY IS THE OFFICIAL LAUNCH!  It’s a ministry endeavor aimed at using the great blessing the LORD has poured out on my family to bring an even broader blessing to others!  It’s Christian Home and Family with Carey Green!

Christian Home and Family

It’s designed to help followers of Christ make Christ the center of their home. Drawing on my experience of God’s grace in my own home and family, and my knowledge of the scriptures, I’m providing teaching, coaching, and resources that are truly helpful in making godly sense of the mess that family life can be.

My approach is very simple: All of life is an act of stewardship. Every believer in Christ is responsible before God to make the most of the life and resources God has entrusted them with, for His glory. Our stewardship before God over arches every aspect of who we are – spirit, soul, and body – and I’m working to help believers in Christ faithfully carry out that stewardship individually, and in respect to those under their care.

My instruction focuses on those three areas – spirit, soul, and body – and their relationship to the everyday issues of home and family life… marriage, parenting, communication, household organization, life management, education, and many others.

I truly feel this is a “calling” for me… on the same level as my calling to the Pastorate.  God has placed this on my heart so strong, so heavy, and so passionately… I LOVE IT!

Christian Home and Family already includes:

  • Regular blog posts (3 to 5 times a week) – subscribe!
  • Topical indexes (Family Foundations, Spirit Health, Soul Health, Body Health, Marriage, Parenting, Education, Reviews)
  • Resources & other services
  • Parenting, marriage, or family coaching
  • Prayer Wall (leave your request any time)
  • On-site voice mail to leave me your question or suggestion!

Coming in the near future:

  • The Christian Home and Family Podcast (debuts within the next two weeks)The Christian Home and Family Podcast
  • A possible “User Forum” to discuss home and family issues from a Christian perspective (what do you think… would that be helpful?)

I’m excited… but open to any and all ideas you have to shoot my way!

Your help is needed!

You can help me in the following ways…

  • Use the various contact forms to shoot me suggestions or comments aimed toward helping me improve the site.
  • Help me spread the word! You know and rub shoulders with many who I may never have the chance to meet. Please consider recommending the website through your social media channels (Facebook, Twitter, Linked-In, etc.) as well as your personal relationships.
  • Help me contact guests for the podcast! I’d love to interview people like Dennis Rainey and James Dobson (if you know them, could you make the introduction?). But I’m also interested in interviewing anyone you know who has significant, Christ-honoring things to share about Christian home and family life. Could you introduce me and suggest the interview?
  • Subscribe to the blog, either via email or in your favorite reader. It makes a difference to new visitors if I have 4 subscribers or 40 or 400. They will be influenced to join by your presence.
  • Join in the conversation by commenting at the end of the posts. The more commenters I have, the more others are encouraged to join in.
  • Share the posts you like with others, via the sharing buttons at the bottom of each one. This is another “social proof” issue, where others are more likely to share posts they see have already been shared.
  • Like” and pass along my Facebook page! – www.ChristianHomeAndFamily.com/facebook – Many people are influenced by the number of “likes” a Facebook page has. They will be more likely to check out what I’m doing if I have more “likes”…so “like” me!
  • Pass along resources on the site to others! – If you find something on the Christian Home and Family website that you find helpful, pass it along!
  • Add this ministry project to your prayer list! – I truly want to see the LORD do His work through these efforts… your prayers will help!

    Any additional suggestions or comments?


Should I do it? – You decide!

The Marriage Improvement ProjectI’m considering a new project here on the blog… and could use your input to help me decide if I should.

I’m thinking about “blogging” my couple’s marriage devotional, “The Marriage Improvement Project” for anyone who would commit to doing it for the sake of their own marriage.  If you don’t know about the MIP, it’s a couple’s devotional study I’ve put together that has helped many couples I’ve counseled.  It’s designed for both spouses to go through together, with some discussion built in.

The way I’d go about it is that I’d post one day’s devotional at a time, at an interval of every other day.

AND I’D BE DOING THIS TOTALLY FREE!

For example:

  • Saturday: I “blog” the “How To Use This Book” chapter
  • Monday: I “blog” the day 1 study
  • Wednesday: I “blog” the day 2 study
  • Friday: I “blog” the day 3 study
  • Sunday: I “blog” the day 4 study
  • Tuesday: etc. – you get the idea… until Day 40 is done.

I’m curious what you think…

Would you do the work of improving YOUR marriage if I posted it?  Talk to your spouse and let me know through the comments below!  If you don’t see it posted at a later date… nobody was interested.

Books from the PF Journal..

Adultery doesn’t “just happen”…

There are tell-tale signs, or better said, small little “erosions” that happen bit by bit that lead to adultery.  They begin in the marriage relationship itself, and then are exaggerated and exploited by things outside the marriage relationship.  And you’d better believe that satan is involved (yes, I know I didn’t capitalize his name… he doesn’t deserve it).

This article, entitled “How an affair begins” is a good reminder for every married couple… read it.

Sexually Abused? Need help? – Free E-BOOK – limited time

photo courtesy of "The Resurgence"

The E-book “Rid of My Disgrace” is free from The Resurgence Store for a limited time (April 2-3, 2012).

Here’s the blurb from the back of the book:

The statistics are jarring. One in four women and one in six men are or will be victims of sexual assault in their lifetime. But as sobering as the statistics are, they don’t begin to speak to the darkness and grief experienced by these victims. Because sexual assault causes physical, psychological, emotional, and spiritual pain, victims need clear help, hope, and healing. In Rid of My Disgrace, a couple experienced in counseling victims of sexual assault explains how the grace of God can heal the broken and restore the disgraced.

Justin and Lindsey Holcomb outline an approach for moving from destruction to redemption. While avoiding platitudes and shallow theology, Rid of My Disgrace combines biblical and theological depth with up-to-date research. This book is primarily written for those who have been assaulted (either as children or adults) but also equips family, friends, pastors, and others to care for victims in ways that are compassionate, practical, and informed. Part of the Re:Lit series.

Faithfully serve and care for your wife – one example

This is re-posted from Brian Croft’s blog – Practical Shepherding

What does it look like for a Christian man to faithfully serve and care for his wife?

The great Princeton Theologian, B.B Warfield, is known as one of the toughest, boldest, and most biblically faithful American Theologians of the late nineteenth century. Even his typical burly glare in most of his pictures would send a liberal theologian running. Because of this, it may surprise you to read of Warfield’s legendary example in his joyful, sacrificial service to his invalid wife. David Calhoun, in his book on Princeton Seminary, vividly captures this powerful example:

Through all the years of their married life Dr. Warfield faithfully cared for his invalid wife. He guarded, protected, and stood by her while carrying his full teaching load and pursuing demanding writing assignments. The seminary students often noted his gentle and loving care for Mrs. Warfield as they walked together on Princeton streets and, later, back and forth on the porch of their campus home. Finally she was bedridden and saw few people besides her husband. By his own choice Dr. Warfield became almost confined to his house; he was never away from her for more than an hour or two at a time. He set aside time to read to her every day. They left Princeton only once in the ten years before her death, for a vacation that he hoped would help her. With his excellent health and varied interests Dr. Warfield must have felt this restriction, but he never complained.

Despite Warfield’s constant care of his wife, Gresham Machen believed Warfield had done “about as much work as ten ordinary men.” Warfield, like many others, can teach us much about theology, but he may be one of just a few celebrated men of history who by his life example can squash our weak excuses of neglect and challenge us to serve our wives with consistency, sacrifice, and longevity.

The power of a Dad’s worship…

The following is an article I came across last week, and it powerful.  It is written by a Christian man who lost his earthly father in 2010.  I’m quoting the entire article because it’s so powerful to me.  May the example of his father be an example to the rest of us fathers…

Dads… you have GOT to read this!

Dads, Sing Like You Mean It Because Your Kids Are Watching

by STEPHEN ALTROGGE on MARCH 13, 2012

[This was written by a man in my church named Keith McCracken. May we be inspired by the example of Keith's father.]

My father was a wonderfully eccentric man. He was a quick witted recluse and a virtual Picasso of mechanicalia. He worked third shift (11:00PM to 7:00AM) for 37 years (without missing a day or ever being late) so as to avoid having his talents “supervised into obscurity.” To most people outside of his family he was hard to understand and blissfully unconcerned with anyone else’s opinion of him. But despite all of that he was very overt about his faith in, and love for, our Savior Jesus Christ.

Though I hold many cherished memories of him, perhaps the most vivid was his excitement over singing certain hymns. By all accounts he possessed at best an “average” voice when it comes to uniqueness and tonal quality. But he sang his favorites with a conviction that was beyond convincing and was by far one of the loudest and most joyful voices in a congregation of approximately 350. I remember looking up at him and “checking him out” while he was singing… “Is he for real?” I would wonder. When he would catch me looking at him he would simply “lock-eyes” with me and sing all the louder while he broadened his grin to match proportion with his pleasure.

He wouldn’t just sing hymns at church either. I can think of many times when the two of us would be welding up a go-kart frame or swapping an engine on a Saturday afternoon and he would spontaneously break into a hymn. In my teens and early twenties I actually found it annoying given the perplexity of some of the situations we would be deep into. But then again I would eventually come around and sing with him anyway. I just never managed to muster the joy he got out of it. I didn’t think about it then but I can see clearly now that he was blessing me with rich God honoring doctrine. That he was lovingly cramming truth into my psyche that would not return void in my soul.

The now heart-softening aspect of these memories is that I am standing here in my church singing these same time impervious truths in front of my children. I catch them looking up at me and I wonder if I am anywhere near as good an example as he was. I get caught up and overwhelmed when I recognize the blessing that God had granted me in an earthly father. How diligent Dad was to bless me in an eternal way without ever making a point to tell me that he was doing it.

Jack McCracken passed away on March 9th of 2010 from pancreatic cancer. The last day I saw him alive was March 8th. We were alone and I was brutally tired from all that had preceded. He could not speak or even open his eyes but the nurses assured me that he could hear so I just prayed for him and encouraged him to trust in Jesus and look for him to come soon. When my nephew arrived I felt comforted that dad would not be alone and I decided to return to my parents’ house and get some rest. I asked my nephew for just a few moments alone with dad and I grasped his hand firmly, kissed his forehead and said: “You did a fantastic job as my father and I am so glad I got to be your son. Thank you for taking me to church. But more importantly thank you for going to church and being joyful there. Thank you for singing like you meant every word… You have no idea how that still affects me… I love you dad.

I stepped back and whistled a “call” he had taught me when I was very young. It would not have been discernible to anyone in a crowd but it meant “I am right behind you” and “I am coming.” I hugged my nephew and thanked him for coming then drove to my parent’s home. Three hours later I was awakened by a phone call from my nephew telling me that “Grampa was gone.” I slumped back into my chair. I wept bitterly. Then I cried out to God for comfort and without much thought I began singing one of Dads favorite hymns…“Jesus paid it all.” As I was singing I began to hear Dad’s voice singing with me… Not as any kind of haunting specter or communion with the dead kind of thing. Much more like a perfect echo… I began to envision his face and felt like I was a little kid again looking up at him. His grin was broadening and his voice was getting louder. I began to thank God over and over for the gift he had given me in my earthly father and the gift of salvation that he had granted to both dad and I. I just laid on the floor and prayed then cried, then sang then prayed some more. I have no idea how long I spent in that state but I can tell you that God granted me peace through it.

Now almost two years later I am still unable to sing a lot of those “old-Baptist” tunes without experiencing the “echo” of my father. I count it a privilege to sing these rich truths in tribute to the one true God; but I also experience the benefit of knowing I am fulfilling the scriptural command to honor my earthly father as well.

I decided to write this all out first as a means of expressing for myself what is sometimes difficult to verbalize. And secondly as a means of encouragement to the fathers in this church. Please sing like you mean it on Sunday morning. I am not asking you to “fake” anything… but rather embrace the very meaning these songs were written for. Seek to express your joy in your Savior Jesus Christ by singing in response to what he has done for you, and in agreement with the truths imbedded in these songs. Neither am I encouraging you to do this specifically for your children’s benefit but first for yourselves with the added comfort of knowing how much it will affect your children. I am simply encouraging you to worship in spirit and in truth. Sing strong because that is what God wants from you. Trust God to bless your children with the echo

You can find the original article HERE

New Venture… and a fun one!

In the struggle of living in this economy, I too and feeling the pinch.  So… I’m working on a new endeavor to help put food on the table and do some good in people’s lives at the same time.  So, I give you… “Real Men T-shirts”

You can find the store HERE

Examples of the kind of stuff I’m doing (so far) are below…

 

Women have to submit? One woman’s battle with the Bible

I’m finishing up a time of rest (sabbatical)
so I’ve pre-scheduled this post for your encouragement!

One of the blogs I subscribe to is the “gender blog”  from the Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood.   Recently there was a great series of posts from one Christian woman about her struggle to understand and appreciate the Bible’s teaching on the dreaded “S” word – submission.  I thought you might like to read it…

You can find it HERE