Category: Parenting
The power of a Dad’s worship…
The following is an article I came across last week, and it powerful. It is written by a Christian man who lost his earthly father in 2010. I’m quoting the entire article because it’s so powerful to me. May the example of his father be an example to the rest of us fathers…
Dads… you have GOT to read this!
Dads, Sing Like You Mean It Because Your Kids Are Watching
by STEPHEN ALTROGGE on MARCH 13, 2012
[This was written by a man in my church named Keith McCracken. May we be inspired by the example of Keith's father.]
My father was a wonderfully eccentric man. He was a quick witted recluse and a virtual Picasso of mechanicalia. He worked third shift (11:00PM to 7:00AM) for 37 years (without missing a day or ever being late) so as to avoid having his talents “supervised into obscurity.” To most people outside of his family he was hard to understand and blissfully unconcerned with anyone else’s opinion of him. But despite all of that he was very overt about his faith in, and love for, our Savior Jesus Christ.
Though I hold many cherished memories of him, perhaps the most vivid was his excitement over singing certain hymns. By all accounts he possessed at best an “average” voice when it comes to uniqueness and tonal quality. But he sang his favorites with a conviction that was beyond convincing and was by far one of the loudest and most joyful voices in a congregation of approximately 350. I remember looking up at him and “checking him out” while he was singing… “Is he for real?” I would wonder. When he would catch me looking at him he would simply “lock-eyes” with me and sing all the louder while he broadened his grin to match proportion with his pleasure.
He wouldn’t just sing hymns at church either. I can think of many times when the two of us would be welding up a go-kart frame or swapping an engine on a Saturday afternoon and he would spontaneously break into a hymn. In my teens and early twenties I actually found it annoying given the perplexity of some of the situations we would be deep into. But then again I would eventually come around and sing with him anyway. I just never managed to muster the joy he got out of it. I didn’t think about it then but I can see clearly now that he was blessing me with rich God honoring doctrine. That he was lovingly cramming truth into my psyche that would not return void in my soul.
The now heart-softening aspect of these memories is that I am standing here in my church singing these same time impervious truths in front of my children. I catch them looking up at me and I wonder if I am anywhere near as good an example as he was. I get caught up and overwhelmed when I recognize the blessing that God had granted me in an earthly father. How diligent Dad was to bless me in an eternal way without ever making a point to tell me that he was doing it.
Jack McCracken passed away on March 9th of 2010 from pancreatic cancer. The last day I saw him alive was March 8th. We were alone and I was brutally tired from all that had preceded. He could not speak or even open his eyes but the nurses assured me that he could hear so I just prayed for him and encouraged him to trust in Jesus and look for him to come soon. When my nephew arrived I felt comforted that dad would not be alone and I decided to return to my parents’ house and get some rest. I asked my nephew for just a few moments alone with dad and I grasped his hand firmly, kissed his forehead and said: “You did a fantastic job as my father and I am so glad I got to be your son. Thank you for taking me to church. But more importantly thank you for going to church and being joyful there. Thank you for singing like you meant every word… You have no idea how that still affects me… I love you dad.
I stepped back and whistled a “call” he had taught me when I was very young. It would not have been discernible to anyone in a crowd but it meant “I am right behind you” and “I am coming.” I hugged my nephew and thanked him for coming then drove to my parent’s home. Three hours later I was awakened by a phone call from my nephew telling me that “Grampa was gone.” I slumped back into my chair. I wept bitterly. Then I cried out to God for comfort and without much thought I began singing one of Dads favorite hymns…“Jesus paid it all.” As I was singing I began to hear Dad’s voice singing with me… Not as any kind of haunting specter or communion with the dead kind of thing. Much more like a perfect echo… I began to envision his face and felt like I was a little kid again looking up at him. His grin was broadening and his voice was getting louder. I began to thank God over and over for the gift he had given me in my earthly father and the gift of salvation that he had granted to both dad and I. I just laid on the floor and prayed then cried, then sang then prayed some more. I have no idea how long I spent in that state but I can tell you that God granted me peace through it.
Now almost two years later I am still unable to sing a lot of those “old-Baptist” tunes without experiencing the “echo” of my father. I count it a privilege to sing these rich truths in tribute to the one true God; but I also experience the benefit of knowing I am fulfilling the scriptural command to honor my earthly father as well.
I decided to write this all out first as a means of expressing for myself what is sometimes difficult to verbalize. And secondly as a means of encouragement to the fathers in this church. Please sing like you mean it on Sunday morning. I am not asking you to “fake” anything… but rather embrace the very meaning these songs were written for. Seek to express your joy in your Savior Jesus Christ by singing in response to what he has done for you, and in agreement with the truths imbedded in these songs. Neither am I encouraging you to do this specifically for your children’s benefit but first for yourselves with the added comfort of knowing how much it will affect your children. I am simply encouraging you to worship in spirit and in truth. Sing strong because that is what God wants from you. Trust God to bless your children with the echo
You can find the original article HERE
Parents: Love God IN FRONT OF your children…
Well said John… well said…
WATCH THE SHORT VIDEO FROM JOHN PIPER HERE
Timeless Principles for Christian Parenting (from Tedd Tripp)
Yes, I’m back from sabbatical… but haven’t yet coalesced the lessons learned into thoughts that would make sen
se to anyone else… so look for something about that in the near future.
I read this book years ago with my wife… and was blessed (and continue to be blessed). In this passage, Tedd NAILS the basic foundation of biblical parenting… read and learn…
If the goal of parenting is no more profound than securing appropriate behavior, we will never help our children understand the internal things, the heart issues, that push and pull behavior. Those internal issues: self-love, rebellion, anger, bitterness, envy, and pride of the heart show our children how profoundly they need grace. If the problem with children is deeper than inappropriate behavior, if the problem is the overflow of the heart, then the need for grace is established. Jesus came to earth, lived a perfect life and died as an infinite sacrifice so that children (and their parents) can be forgiven, transformed, liberated and empowered to love God and love others.
When we miss the heart, we miss the glory of God. The need of children (or adults) who have fallen into various forms of personal idolatry is not only to tear down the high places of the alien gods, but to enthrone God. Children are spring-loaded for worship. One of the most important callings God has given parents is to display the greatness, goodness, and glory of the God for whom they are made. Parents have the opportunity, through word and deed, to show children the one true object of worship—the God of the Bible. We know that the greatest delights our children can ever experience are found in delighting in the God who has made them for his glory.
Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child’s Heart (Shepherd Press, 2005), xii.
Christians, parenting, and “magic” in stories
I’m taking an extended break from ministry activities
(a sabbatical) – so this is a pre-scheduled post for your edification.
I have to admit – I love a good story. I love stories that include elements of the supernatural (there’s so much we still can’t explain… except to say, “In the beginning, God…”). I love stories that mix the two.
In line with that bent, I played Dungeons and Dragons (c) when I was a kid (GASP!). I read fantasy novels (Piers Anthony, Isaac Assimov, others…). I loved the first Star Wars movies (the first one came out when I was around 8 years old).
But as a Christian parent, I’ve had to re-think a lot of that, because of the two extremes that have cropped up in modern Christianity (in America at least… I wonder if they are so concerned about it in Africa, or Asia, or Indonesia?) On the one side you get genuinely concerned parents, trying to appropriately lead their children to a right understanding of the world, the supernatural, and the mixture of the two. On the other, you find parents who are deathly afraid that their kid might hear about a person named Harry Potter and slide down the slippery slope into witchcraft and wizardry themselves.
So what’s a Christian parent to do?
Honestly, I think there’s WAY too much hype over this issue in some quarters, and not enough wise-thinking parents teaching their children HOW to think, rather than WHAT to think. So in that vein, I give you THIS article by N.D. Wilson on the subject. I found it very helpful!
Repentance – one mark of a REAL MAN
Being man in our day and age can be a bit confusing. Who is a good role model? With many men coming from broken homes, with no dad in sight, sometimes the only role model is what comes out of Hollywood. Lord… help us!
I came across this article today from theresurgence.org… a very good one… good enough to repost in its entirety. ENJOY and be BLESSED!

Machismo
Growing up in Santa Fe, N.M. I was exposed very heavily to the “machismo” type of masculinity. A man is defined by how many fights he has been in, how many girls he has slept with, and how much liquor he can consume. This is handed down from father to son, generation after generation. I can’t count how many times growing up that I watched my dad either getting drunk or getting into street fights.
As a matter of fact, one time when he found out that a neighbor kid was picking on me, and I had done nothing about it, he drove me over to his house and forced me to fight him. My dad was as tough as they come. When he was only 16, he wrecked my grandpa’s car, and rather than face the beating he knew was coming, he pushed the car into the driveway and walked to California with only a dollar in his pocket.
What It Meant To Be a Man
The sad thing is this is how he would lead our family as well. Our home was filled with violence and alcohol abuse. I simply thought that this was what it meant to be a man. Therefore, this is what I was aiming for. My father had taught me well, and I was well on my way to walking in his footsteps. But little did I know that God in his grace was calling my father. He would teach him what it really means to be a man. It would be radically different from what he had learned, and what he had taught me.
As my father began to walk with Jesus, I saw him do things that he had never done. These are things that I was taught that real men were never to do. I’ll never forget the first time I saw my dad reading a bible, or the first time I saw him cry, or the first time I saw him actually avoid a fight. It blew me away. I had no neat little box to put this in. I knew that this had to be God working in my father’s life.
I had no neat little box to put this in. I knew that this had to be God working in my father’s life.
Respect and Confession
This began to teach me that there was more to being a man than I was taught. The violent and proud man I once knew was gone, and in his place was a humble and gentle man. A man who still commanded respect, but not through fear. It came through friendship.
I’ll never forget the day my dad came to me and confessed his sins against our family and me. He admitted he was wrong in so many areas of his life, and that by God’s grace he would be a better example of what a man truly is. He didn’t only do this with me, but also with so many people he had wronged throughout his life. It was in that moment I learned one of the most important things about being a man.
Real Men Repent
The bible says in Proverbs 28:13, “Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.” My father taught me the meaning of true repentance. Through this lesson I was able to win the biggest battle I had ever been in. My entire life I battled sin, and I always came up on the losing end. When I placed my faith in Jesus Christ and through the repentance of my sins, I received the mercy of God and acceptance as his son.
Jesus now becomes for me the ultimate example of what it truly means to be a man.
Jesus gave me the victory over sin that I could never have experienced on my own. Meaning that sin became for me something I do, instead of something I am. And when I do sin, I can confess and repent of my sin, and God will be faithful and forgive and cleanse me from all my unrighteousness.
Jesus now becomes for me the ultimate example of what it truly means to be a man. By God’s grace I live to his glory daily in my life and plan to pass this on to my son behind me.
Will your kids stay in church when they leave home?
Today I read a very, very, VERY excellent article that all Youth Pastors, Pastors, and PARENTS should read…
It’s addressing the issue of college age kids who abandon the church or their faith when they leave home. The writer is a Youth Pastor, and is speaking from scripture and from experience.
Here’s a quote from the article…
In general, children who are led in their faith during their growing-up years by parents who love Jesus vibrantly, serve their church actively, and saturate their home with the gospel completely, grow up to love Jesus and the church.
That’s just ONE convicting gem from this short article.
If you are a parent who is concerned that your child truly love Jesus and truly serve Him for a lifetime, you should read this article. Don’t expect a “guaranteed formula” – but expect a clear and powerful argument about what it really takes to transfer a love of Jesus to your children in a genuine way…
http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/2011/07/29/why-youth-stay-in-church-when-they-grow-up/
Motherhood is a Calling from God!
For all you moms out there…
Don’t give in to the pressure that says staying at home is “wasting your time” or some other such nonsense! You are doing one of the most valuable jobs in the world! Who else is going to be available to care for your kids like YOU will care for your kids? They need you… not your neighbor, your mother, a relative, or a day-care worker. Those all-important questions about life, God, faith, etc. that you want to answer for your kids don’t happen on a schedule… they happen when they pop into your younguns mind! You need to BE THERE to answer those questions… Don’t leave it to some $10/hour day-care worker you hardly know! How much do you think THEY really care that your child gets the TRUTH? Your kids need YOU!
Here’s another article to encourage you as you do your vital role of mothering!
http://www.desiringgod.org/blog/posts/motherhood-is-a-calling-and-where-your-children-rank
Mothers as Missionaries
I’ve said for a long time… Moms hold one of the most important “jobs” in the world. No kidding. I really believe it.
Who else has as much influence on the fashioning and molding of an actual human being? (a Dad? In some ways, but I don’t believe as often or as consistently in most cases).
What really irks me is that our culture has tried to convince us that women are wasting their time being Moms… they should get a “real job.”
BAH! HUMBUG!
Moms are important – VITALLY IMPORTANT!
I ran across the following article on the Desiring God blog this week… it makes the case very nicely.
ENJOY – http://www.desiringgod.org/blog/posts/motherhood-as-a-mission-field
9 things your Pastor would like to say, but probably won’t
I found this post originally from www.modernrject.com – and found it very interesting, and accurate for the most part.
The only point I don’t fully agree with is:
- the reasoning behind #6 (I think sometimes Pastors CAN fix your problems, if they are taking you to the scriptures and encouraging you toward dependent faith in Christ alone… which amounts to Jesus fixing your problem, not them… which I why I left #6 in the list at all…)
- and how that connects to #7 (the fact that Pastors are sinners too has NOTHING to do with whether they can be of help to you. Every person in the Bible, with the exception of God/Jesus/Holy Spirit was a sinner too… and we have received MUCH help from them [Paul, Peter, Moses, the woman at the well, etc.] Pastors are no different)
Here are nine things that your pastor wants to say, but might not ever tell you (and maybe should):
1. It’s not my job to share the gospel with your friends: Contrary to popular belief, it is actually your job to do that. I am here to help equip you to share the gospel. Stop taking the easy way out and just bringing your friends to church, and expecting me to do all the work.
2. I have a life when I’m not at church: And it’s actually pretty important to me. Just like you have family, friends, and hobbies I do as well. Even though the church is really important to me, my life does not just revolve around the events there. If I don’t respond to every phone call or text message right away, I will as soon as I am free.
3. It might be nice, if I knew you cared about me once in a while: Beneath this strong exterior of leadership, I have a heart that cares deeply for the people I pastor. I would love to know that they care for me too.
4. Why is it okay for you to have nice things, but not me: I like nice things too, just sayin.
5. If you wouldn’t cry so much, I would cancel our Christmas pageant: And give the money to families who can’t afford to buy their kids gifts. I think its what Jesus would do. Maybe it is time to think about the real values of our church and walk in them.
6. I can’t fix your problems: Even though you might think I can, I really can’t. I might even have a lot of good advice, but it is impossible for me to be your rescue. That doesn’t mean I don’t want to hear what you are going through, because I really care, but all I really can do is listen and let you know God is with you, because…
7. I actually struggle with sin too: I know, I know.. I’m the pastor, but lets get real here: Pastors are people too.
8. I don’t want to run this church alone: I would rather partner with you. Church is a community, where we all work together to bring the hope of the gospel to the world. Your involvement is key to the success of the church and it’s ministries.
9. The gospel is about Jesus’ unending love for humanity, not your comfort on Sunday morning: The mission of the church is a little bit more serious then your music preference during our worship services. That doesn’t mean your opinions are not valid, but let get things in perspective here.
The Decline of the Traditional Family – What To Do About It…
There is a great post at the resurgence about the statistics regarding the decline of what they call the “nuclear family” (Dad, Mom, married, with kids). It not only looks at the phenomena, but also suggests the way the church should be addressing it – and with which I totally agree.
This one is worth your time to read…
You can find it HERE