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Tools for your Quiet Time #14 – Organizing your prayer list

This is post #14 in a series of posts “Tools for Your Quiet Time.”  You can find the earlier posts here: #1#2#3#4#5 - #6#7#8#9, – #10,#11#12#13

Organizing your prayer priorities

For years, I struggled to find a way to include the many things I needed to pray for and about, into a system of some kind so that I wouldn’t overlook or forget them. I wanted to be diligent in my prayers for my family, friends, and church family, but felt that the great number of things I should be praying for was so overwhelming that I couldn’t get through it! It seemed like I’d never be able to consistently pray for all those needs! I tried to write out my requests on a “list” so that I could systematically go through them, but I never felt like I was being consistent to pray for ALL of them, or praying for the truly important things enough.

One year when I was attending a conference, I heard Dr. D.A. Carson (author and professor at Trinity Theological Seminary) speaking. In his message, he made a side comment about the way he went about organizing his prayer life. He had a very simple, easy-to-follow system that enabled him to regularly and consistently cycle through all of his prayer concerns. I began using his system, and found it very helpful. Over the years I have adapted it in a few significant ways. It has been a wondrous blessing to me. It’s no cure-all, but is is a very practical way to organize your many prayer requests into a system that works. I call it the 3 stack method – and here’s what I do initially to get it organized…

  • STEP 1: I write a list of everything and everyone that I want to pray for on a regular basis.
    • This is everything from my wife and children, to individuals in my church family, to ongoing personal needs, to my country and its leaders.
    • I make a list of all those things so that I have a pretty full idea of the things I want to be praying for.
  • STEP 2: I decide how often I want to and need to pray for each of those prayer concerns.
    • Some people or things, like my wife and children, I want to pray for daily.
    • Others, like specific families in my church, or temporary situations, I don’t feel a need to pray for as regularly – though I do want to be faithful to pray for them.
    • Finally, there are issues or needs that are even lower on the priority scale than that. It’s not that these are unimportant or shouldn’t be prayed for, but that they are not AS important as some of the other things on my list.
    • I assign one of 3 priorities to each of them: I’ve decided to call those 3 levels of priority “Daily”, “Weekly”, and “Rotation” requests.
  • STEP 3: On index cards or note cards of some kind, I write each request, one to a card (you’ll understand why in a minute).
    • Somewhere on the card, in large letters, I write it’s priority.
    • Then I place each card in a stack with the other cards of the same priority.
    • Here are some examples…

  • STEP 4: Using paper clips, I fasten each stack together so they don’t go flying across the room if I drop them! So now I have 3 stacks of requests, each with a different priority assigned to them.
  • HOW IT WORKS: Here’s where it gets really practical… and where you will begin to understand why I’m using paper clips!
    • Every day when it comes time for me to pray, I pray for each request in the daily group, from front to back. When I finish praying for a request, it moves to the back of the stack. When I finish praying for the next one, it goes to the back of the stack, and so forth until the entire stack is finished. Then I reattach the paper clip.
    • When I’m finished with the daily stack, I move on to the weekly stack and pray for an equal amount each day. (For example: If I have 21 cards in my weekly group, and if I have my prayer time 7 days a week, I’ll be praying for 3 per day. Again, as I finish each request, it goes to the back of the stack. When I’m finished with the weekly group, I reattach the paper clip. Since I moved the requests I prayed for today to the back of the stack, the first one on the stack will be where I start the next day.
    • When I’m finished with the weekly stack, I’ll move on to the rotation stack. I don’t have a specified number that I pray for in this stack, just whatever I have time for. Again, as I finish each request, it goes to the back of the stack. When I’m finished, I reattach the paper clip to the stack of cards.
    • Using this method, I simply start with the top card in each stack because I know that they are “next in line.”
    • What happens if I run out of time or an emergency comes up? Even if I didn’t finish one of the stacks as planned, I just paper clip it where I left off, and pick up there the next day, resuming my normal routine. I never worry about “catching-up” if I have fallen behind for some reason. I just pick up where I left off.
    • You should keep your 3 stacks in something where they won’t get lost or misplaced. You could use anything from a zip-lock baggie to a file folder, to a briefcase pocket. I have a zippered pocket folder where I keep mine. Just make sure you keep it in the same place all the time so that when it comes time for you to pray, you know where it is!
  • ADDING/REMOVING ITEMS
    • Any time a request is no longer relevant, you can simply remove that card from the stack and throw it away.
    • For answered prayers – you could create a 4th stack of “Answered” requests that you could periodically look through in order to give additional praise to God for His answers! You could even put a card in any of your stacks that says, “Praise for answered prayer” to remind you to use that 4th stack!
    • If the priority of one of you prayer items changes for some reason, you can reassign it to another category by making a new card for it.
    • The most difficult part of this system is in handling new requests. If someone asks you to pray for them, you first have to remember to write down their request so you don’t forget. Once that is done, all you have to do is to make a card for their request, assign it a priority, and include it in the cards you already have in that stack.
    • Sometimes you might be given a prayer card from a missionary family, or another ministry that contains its own list of specific requests. Or you might be part of a prayer chain or other distribution list where you receive lists of requests on a regular basis. You can make individual cards for every individual request if you’d like, but I don’t go to that trouble. I include those kinds of cards in my “rotation” pile. When I get to that card, I pray for as many of the individual requests on it as I can. If I don’t get all the way through, I leave it on the front of the stack and mark with a pencil next to the request where I should begin praying next time.

I’ve found this method to be a great help to me in organizing the many things that I need to pray for. It allows me to regularly and consistently be praying for the things that are important to me, or that are my responsibility to pray for as a father, husband, pastor, etc. Now, I can honestly say that I’ve been praying for people on a regular basis – and encourage them by telling them so!

Tools for your Quiet Time #11 – Prayer Journals

This is post #11 in a series of posts “Tools for Your Quiet Time.”  You can find the earlier posts here: #1#2#3#4#5 - #6#7#8#9, & #10

Prayer Journals

A prayer journal is place where you write out your prayers to God. Think of it has a letter you are writing to God, or a conversation you are having with Him. There are a variety of ways you can organize your journal. Some people purchase a spiral notebook with multiple sections, using those sections to separate different headings or topics of prayer. If you do, you might label the sections as Family, Work, Church, Health Issues, etc., listing your prayer requests in the appropriate section and writing out your prayers as you go. Other people simply begin at the front of their notebook or journal and write out what is on their heart each day in prayers to God (similar to a daily diary, only directed to God).

One of the advantages I’ve discovered to using a prayer journal is that the process of writing forces me to slow down enough to think through what I really need and want to speak to the Lord about. I find my written prayers are actually more expressive of what is on my heart. A disadvantage, which can become a frustration over time is that prayer journaling requires a decent amount of time. It’s simply slower to write out your thoughts than to think them or speak them. Some individuals have tried to overcome that drawback by typing their prayers on word processing or other computer software. But for me, though it can become a frustration at times, the value of journaling is that it DOES take time. I’m forced to think a bit more deeply, and I find myself feeling that I’ve been able to express my heart to the Lord more fully. There are really no rules for how you journal – you should do what works best for you.

Tools for your Quiet Time #6 – The Word Emphasis Method

This is post #6 in a series of posts “Tools for Your Quiet Time.”  You can find the earlier posts here: #1#2#3#4#5

THE WORD EMPHASIS METHOD

This isn’t really a full-blown study method… it’s more of a devotional tool. But it has proven very helpful to me because of the repetitive and varied nature of it. Sounds like a contradiction, doesn’t it? You’ll see what I mean…

BENEFITS

  • This method will enable you to hear, read, or speak a particular verse or passage a number of times, which will help to expand the meaning in your mind.
  • The repetitive nature of this tool helps you to recall the scriptures you’ve studied more easily.

WHAT YOU WILL NEED

  • A trustworthy Bible translation (ESV, NIV, NASB, NKJV, KJV, RSV)

HOW TO DO IT

  • Take any passage of scripture and read it slowly. A single verse or phrase is usually most manageable.
  • Reread the verse, emphasizing the first word. Take your time in considering the meaning that emphasis gives to the verse.
  • Reread the verse, emphasizing the second word. Take your time in considering the meaning that emphasis gives to the verse.
  • Reread the verse, emphasizing the third word… etc., etc.

EXAMPLE

  • Scripture: John 3:16 – For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whosoever believes in Him should not perish, but have eternal life.
  • FOR God so loved the world… (emphasizes what God’s “reason” was for what He did).
  • For GOD so loved the world… (emphasizes “who” is the primary mover/actor in this verse).
  • For God SO loved the world… (emphasizes the “degree” or “amount” of God’s love for the world).
  • For God so LOVED the world… (emphasizes what God felt/did)
  • etc., etc. etc.

Many people find this method to be of great value in getting the full meaning of a particular verse. It can seem somewhat repetitive (really?), but is well worth at least an occasional use.

Spiritual learning – like wiping the dinner table

An illuminating conversation occurred recently between my 8 year old son and me while he was attempting to wipe down the dinner table. It was illuminating because it pointed me toward a way to express a concept that I’ve been thinking on for some time. The conversation went something like this…

ME: Son, make sure you’re getting all of the table clean…

SON: I am, Dad…

ME: No, you’re not – look at how you’re holding the rag, all bunched up. Spread it out and wipe the table with it that way so that more of it can wipe the table.

SON: O.K. (and he spreads out the rag)

ME: (after watching for a bit) Son, you’re missing lots of areas on the table… (he looks at me in confusion) Wiping the table is supposed to get ALL of the table clean, not just make wet marks across some parts of it. Try this for starters… imagine that you are painting the table with the rag and you want EVERY part of the table to be covered with paint. That will help you to wipe down every part, not just make big swipes here and there…

SON: (Thoughtfully) O.K. Dad (and he began to do a thorough job – sort of)

Why do I tell you this story? Because it’s a good example of how teaching occurs and serves to point out a wrong attitude that is prevalent in the modern world.

What happens during the process of teaching? Someone who is more experienced, more seasoned, more knowledgeable, or more wise in a certain area gives guidance to someone who is less so in that area. My son is only 8 years old. He’s not wiped many tables in his lifetime. In fact, he’s only been doing so for a short time as one of his regular chores around the house. Due to his inexperience in the area of table-wiping, he’s got a lot to learn – and learn he will. The same holds true in the spiritual arena.

There are people – hopefully Pastors, teachers, Elders in your church – who are more knowledgable, more experienced, and more mature in spiritual matters than you are (if they are not, there are two possible options. 1) You are a mature believer yourself, as you should be, or 2) you should probably begin looking for another church – one with qualified leadership). In order for you to grow in your own spiritual walk, you need the input of these people in your life – and you need the accountability they offer as well. And you need to begin seeing that those people are placed in your life by God, to help you move along spiritually. You need them.

Once we are adults, the world teaches us to cop an attitude that says, “Who are YOU to tell me such and such!?” – and it doesn’t matter WHO the person is, we are still encouraged to have that attitude. The wrong belief is that everyone is one equal terms in every area, especially when it comes to moral or spiritual things. It’s relativism, plain and simple. But in answer to the question – “Who are YOU to tell me such and such?”, the honest truth is – they are your Pastor, an Elder in your church, a more mature Christian – and as such they have the right and the Biblical mandate to speak truth into your life and to spur you on toward spiritual growth. That’s one of the primary things the church IS! If you thought it was something different (a socially expected association, a place to go each week to feel good, a religious organization, a social mission, etc.), then you were sold a bill of goods! You need to realize that everyone (even the Pastors and Elders) need to be taught, all along the road of life. And in order for that to happen, you have to humble yourself and receive instruction.

SO – Get the chip off your shoulder and humbly receive what your spiritual leaders have to offer. You might be surprised how much more noticeable your spiritual growth is. And if you don’t have spiritual authorities in your life whose lives you can respect and eagerly imitate, then you need to find a new church in which to fellowship. And IF you do leave, do them a favor and lovingly tell them the truth about WHY you are leaving.

Thinking it through – a spiritual discipline we NEED

 

“Thoughts disentangle themselves when they flow from the lips or the fingertips.” – Dawson Trotman

 

Much of what I write on this blog comes out of the thought processes I’m going through or have gone through in my own personal world. Whether it’s political issues, marriage struggles, parenting problems, or anything in between those, it’s always helped me in working out what is going on inside to WRITE OUT what’s going on inside – my thoughts, my feelings, my fears, my hurts, my dreams, and my pains. For me it has proved to be instrumental in becoming a better thinker and a wiser man.

 

Once I discovered the need in my own life, I discovered a second thing – It takes significant portions of time to do this. I didn’t (and don’t) like to hear that. We are fast-paced, event-to-event, schedule-packed people – and to carve out time for something that seems so intangible is almost counterintuitive. But the truth is that it’s crucially, vitally, indespensibly, life-shapingly important. We are a people who are walking around with jumbles of information, feelings, and thoughts tangled and twisted inside our heads and hearts. And God is in there too – somewhere – speaking, tweaking, seeking to guide us through the mess. We have GOT to take time to sort it all out in a wise and Spirit-led way. I see it like the processor in my laptop – it’s the key portion of my life that works out things internally, the processing of what really matters.

 

I’ve met some people (my wife again) who are able to do this, fairly effectively, in their head as they go about their day. But in my experience those types of people are the exception, not the rule. Chances are that for YOU, it won’t work that way either. Most of us, especially the busier life becomes, need to STOP and REGULARLY, and INTENTIONALLY PROCESS what life and the Lord are doing inside us.

 

Daily Checkup

I’ve just come off a very hard time personally – in fact it was very hard on the entire family.  It was one of those seasons that was so long (seemingly) and difficult that you just hang on to survive.  Forget about improving, growing, pressing on to bigger and better things, it takes all you have to simply hold on.  That was the past 6 months for me…

So now I’m faced with getting back on track, being more intentional about life and my marriage in Daily Checkupparticular.  I’ve been happily married for 18 years and my wife is wonderful!  Next to Christ she is my greatest blessing.  She’s especially a blessing in the way she helps me know myself and manage and organize my life.  Yesterday we had a talk that was one of those “ephiphany” moments for me.  The idea that came out of it had to do with my daily time with the Lord…

I’ve typically spent time in my morning “Quiet time” (I’ve wanted to find another name for that for a long time, but can’t seem to find the right word) journaling my prayers and studying a passage of some kind.  But she gave me a new idea… what would it be like if I took my main responsibilities as a man (marriage, kids, vocation, relationships, etc.) EVERY DAY? What if I just laid those out before Him and asked Him to reveal to me how I’m doing in those areas, to show me “new” things I can do in each, or to help me evaluate and plan in those roles?

I am very excited about it.  Up until now I’ve just juggled those things, paying attention to each one as it seemed “urgent” (sad to say).  But this way, I can avail myself of the resources of God Almighty, His perspectives on me, my marriage, my kids, etc.  This way I can keep short accounts, stay on top of things more easily, and daily consider how to meet those obligations (in a good way) with HIS strength!  Of course I want to keep up the journaling and study, but this daily “check-in” with the Lord on the areas of my greatest desire and responsibility should prove to be very helpful…  I’ll keep you posted.