I found this post originally from www.modernrject.com – and found it very interesting, and accurate for the most part.
The only point I don’t fully agree with is:
- the reasoning behind #6 (I think sometimes Pastors CAN fix your problems, if they are taking you to the scriptures and encouraging you toward dependent faith in Christ alone… which amounts to Jesus fixing your problem, not them… which I why I left #6 in the list at all…)
- and how that connects to #7 (the fact that Pastors are sinners too has NOTHING to do with whether they can be of help to you. Every person in the Bible, with the exception of God/Jesus/Holy Spirit was a sinner too… and we have received MUCH help from them [Paul, Peter, Moses, the woman at the well, etc.] Pastors are no different)
Here are nine things that your pastor wants to say, but might not ever tell you (and maybe should):
1. It’s not my job to share the gospel with your friends: Contrary to popular belief, it is actually your job to do that. I am here to help equip you to share the gospel. Stop taking the easy way out and just bringing your friends to church, and expecting me to do all the work.
2. I have a life when I’m not at church: And it’s actually pretty important to me. Just like you have family, friends, and hobbies I do as well. Even though the church is really important to me, my life does not just revolve around the events there. If I don’t respond to every phone call or text message right away, I will as soon as I am free.
3. It might be nice, if I knew you cared about me once in a while: Beneath this strong exterior of leadership, I have a heart that cares deeply for the people I pastor. I would love to know that they care for me too.
4. Why is it okay for you to have nice things, but not me: I like nice things too, just sayin.
5. If you wouldn’t cry so much, I would cancel our Christmas pageant: And give the money to families who can’t afford to buy their kids gifts. I think its what Jesus would do. Maybe it is time to think about the real values of our church and walk in them.
6. I can’t fix your problems: Even though you might think I can, I really can’t. I might even have a lot of good advice, but it is impossible for me to be your rescue. That doesn’t mean I don’t want to hear what you are going through, because I really care, but all I really can do is listen and let you know God is with you, because…
7. I actually struggle with sin too: I know, I know.. I’m the pastor, but lets get real here: Pastors are people too.
8. I don’t want to run this church alone: I would rather partner with you. Church is a community, where we all work together to bring the hope of the gospel to the world. Your involvement is key to the success of the church and it’s ministries.
9. The gospel is about Jesus’ unending love for humanity, not your comfort on Sunday morning: The mission of the church is a little bit more serious then your music preference during our worship services. That doesn’t mean your opinions are not valid, but let get things in perspective here.