Secular Sermon: Relationship = Sex

On my way to work every morning I come across this billboard sponsored by a “birth control” organization.  See if you can pick up the “sermon” being preached…

Message: Relationship = Sex

A common reaction: (even from Christians):

  • Well if they are going to have sex anyway, they should at least be “protected.”

Sorry, though nobody may actually become pregnant, there is no real “protection” in this case.  There is no such thing as an emotional or spiritual condom.  Sex outside of a committed marriage relationship does not build up – it destroys – on emotional and spiritual levels.  Nobody is truly protected in this scenario.

My thoughts on the subject:

  • I wonder, is this the new way of saying, “If you really love me, you’ll let me.” ?
  • Why is it that we fall for this?  Does the fact that two people can engage in a physical act (that animals can also do, by the way) really mean that they are in, or working at, a relationship?  I don’t think so…
  • Being married for over 20 years now, I can say from experience: Sex is great… but not THAT great.  It’s enhanced my marriage relationship, but it hasn’t created or become the relationship.  That’s simply not what sex was created to accomplish… and it can’t.

Correction: In my mind’s eye, here’s what the billboard should say if it were speaking the truth:

Romans 12:1-2 I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.


4 thoughts on “Secular Sermon: Relationship = Sex

  1. Carey, here is the organization behind the sign. Colorado Department of Public Health and Environment (CDPHE) and the Colorado Initiative to Reduce Unintended Pregnancy (CI). While I applaud their goal of reducing unintended pregnancy in under-aged and unmarried couples and the reduction in STD’s, it is sad that their communication is as flawed as it is. Having said that, is it not true that the government has it’s methods of trying to effect social change while the church has it’s own unique methods? As Christians, I think we should strive as hard as we can to ensure our methods are effective within our “family” while hoping that God lets those outside our “family” be affected by our methods. Whether through positive effects like influence, friendship, or sympathy or negative ones like guilt, sorrow, or pain these may all be avenues for getting non-Christians into a relationship with Jesus through the church.

    • Curt – glad you’ve joined the conversation! You make very good points. Our goal is to represent Christ well, holding out the truth, hoping that those outside the church will see the hope we offer and come to faith in it (Him). And yes, part of that is how WE live it out “in the family.” Great points my friend!

  2. “There is no such thing as an emotional or spiritual condom.”
    That’s a great line. I never thought about it quite like that.
    I always feel a little awkward talking about this issue though. Through God’s grace, my wife and I waited until marriage – but we’re in the minority in our society. I want to talk about this issue, but I don’t want to rub people’s face in their past failures if they were among those who didn’t wait. Any advice?

    • Hi Loren, and thanks for the dialogue. I completely understand the “rubbing their face in it” concern. I have that same concern. There’s always a fine line between helping people learn to think differently as believers (Romans 12:1-2), and helping them adequately deal with their past. Both are issues of discipleship / sanctification – the first in the process of actually becoming transformed, the second in setting that stage for that transformation to happen by breaking the chains the past may have on them.

      If the attitude is actually TO rub their face in their past failures, then there’s a log in your eye. Deal with that first. But if it’s just a fear you have that you might be perceived that way, I think you have the right heart to be EXACTLY THE ONE who should be having the conversation with them. You’re concerned about the person more than the issue. Having said that, I’ll say this – If some people feel “judged” at the idea that sex before marriage is wrong (because they didn’t wait until marriage), they SHOULD feel judged (by the scriptures). There is true guilt there that needs to be confessed and repented of if true freedom from the past is to exist in their lives. I’m not saying that YOU judge them, but you should faithfully point them to the scriptures and gently lead them to repentance as you see them responding to the power of the word and Spirit.

      I’m thankful you want to care for people so well… and with faithfulness. Blessings!

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